couples often slip into a deep depression. They think
- "Why us?" They should realize that there is no point
beating themselves up pointlessly about something that
is beyond their control. They should try to resign themselves
to the fact some things are just not meant to be. However,
couples pass through many agonizing hours of self-doubt
and despair before they reach this ideal state of acceptance.
husband or the wife often feels guilty thinking that it
is his or her fault that conception was not possible.
Sometimes the man or woman's own feelings of guilt drive
them to ascribe these feelings to their partners. This
is usually unwarranted as the thought may have never crossed
their partners' minds, nor have they acted in a manner
indicating that they blamed the other person
who are infertile often feel that the fact that they cannot
bear children makes them less of a woman or inadequate
in some way. Unfortunately, this is a sentiment that is
often supported in society. Being barren is not a stigma
that a woman should have to bear like a cross for the
rest of her life. There is much more to a woman than her
ability to bear a child.
if conception was not possible as a result of male infertility,
the male partner may feel that it is a slur on his manhood.
Men should remember that sterility does not automatically
mean a loss of virility. Sterile men can still be extremely
couples should make every attempt to pull themselves out
of the depths of despair. Speaking to other couples in
a similar situation can be a source of great solace. These
couples should try to find out about infertility support
groups. They should learn to accept their childlessness
as a fact of life and learn to deal with it positively.
Adoption is an option that they may want to consider.
If adoption is not a choice they would like to make, then
they will have to find other ways to channel their love
for children. Remember that parenthood is an experience
that should not be missed out on if possible. But if you
can't be a parent, life does go on. There is a whole wide
world out there with a new experience around every bend.